Thursday, July 9, 2009

Ava is the victim!

This is an extremely powerful and must read letter from Traci...

I had a difficult time sleeping last night and I wanted to share the reason why. Someone recently told me that a neighbor of the person that hit Ava, Isa and I feels as if she (the woman who hit us) is the victim in all of this. I have thought about this statement over and over and just can’t seem to get it out of my mind. I’m not quite sure how to react to this statement except to invite this neighbor to my house and introduce him/her to Ava….the 18 month old innocent child that was plowed down by his/her extremely impaired neighbor. I would like to show him my child that is unable to walk, crawl, stand, sit for any length of time without getting agitated or let alone see to help facilitate all of the above. My daughter who prior to April 23rd was all smiles and now becomes extremely frustrated and angry multiple times throughout the day because she has had a major brain injury and can’t understand why she is unable to do the things I just listed above. I would like this family to spend just one day with my daughter going to therapy, going to doctor’s visits, feeding her and reminding Ava that she needs to chew and swallow when she eats her meals, holding her because she is scared to be left alone. Then at the end of the night I would like them to explain to my 6 year old son why it is okay for this to have happened? Why the person that hit us is the victim? I talked to my son Jack last night regarding the accident….one of several conversations we have had since the accident. I told him that Ava used the kid walk in therapy today and that she did really well. She was able to bounce a ball back and forth with me while putting pressure thru her legs. I said Jack, isn’t that great’? His response was “Mommy I want Ava to be able to bounce the ball with me without that walker thing, like she used to”. To the neighbors that feel as if the woman that hit us is the victim, I ask you to put yourself in our position. I also want to know if you truly believe it is appropriate to pass along the message to our children that it is okay to drive while impaired? Fortunately for you this is not your child. You are not living the hell that I am.

To all of Ava’s angels…..I hope you understand that this needed to be addressed. I thank each of you for YOUR continued prayers and support.

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